She’s the father of two Recently, I was reading The Huffington Post, one of my favorite places on the web. Along with the name of the author of an article, there is a one-or-two sentence biographic statement. I saw the above headline regarding the author of the story I was reading and stopped short. What a wonderful addition to this woman’s bio. Being a parent is one of the really important things in life, if not the most important. Being Trans* will never negate being a mother or a father. It made me hope to see more and more references like this in the future.
Me too Immediately after reading She’s the father of two, I said, “Me too!” I have a son and a daughter and I’ve never thought of myself any other way then being their dad. Being their dad is amazing and I can’t think of anything I’m more proud of or that I’d rather be. I love Ben and Rachel and I love being their dad.
What should I call you? When I came out to my son and daughter, they both asked, “What should I call you?” My response was, “Call me dad, or whatever you are comfortable calling me.” Regardless of how I present, my gender expression or how I define myself, it does not change the facts. I’m a father.
Hi, I’m Cate O’Malley, Ben’s dad This should be a simple introduction. I’ve used it and it does tend to make the uninitiated a bit uncomfortable. It’s a statement of fact, not a way for me to poke fun nor do I say it to get a rise out of someone. I’m Ben’s dad. It’s a simple, truthful statement.
Times are changing If I’m a transwoman and the father of two, then there are transmen who are mothers. There are agender people who are fathers and mothers. It’s an undisputable fact. Until there’s a different word, the person providing the eggs is the mother and the person providing the sperm is the father. Until those designations change, and it seems unlikely, then I’m a father, and damn proud of it.